Ties the knot

stitch...age 1yr 8mnth

she got all the love... never ever being hurt

mommy loves you so much baby....

Lahirku bukan untuk menyakiti, apatah lagi disakiti.....

Lahirku untuk menyayangi juga disayangi..

Terima kasih sayang kerana menyayangi dan mencintai wawa....

6th yr students...... the future doctors""

i had a very interesting conversation last nite with my roommate, sue a.k.a. ceqsue regarding adat budaya perkahwinan orang melayu..... bermula dgn merisik, kemudian bertunang dan seterusnya barulah nikah dan walimah..... ok, just skip it... rite now we'r more interested in bertunang first.. apparently, she happened to chat with one old fren who is studying in mesir.....

her fren so curious to know she's engaged or not...... absolutely not yet!!! sue n i, almost in everything we have in common....we 've been roommates since our preparatory course in INTEC,UiTM which is 6years ago..... we'r just ordinary kampung girl........ we share most of our secrets... sometimes we shed tears together... we discuss love problem together.... n most important our family never allow us to have any real established commitment with anyone as long we haven't got our degrees yet.... mean xleh lagi la nak gatal2 bertunang sekarang ni... simpan dulu angan2 tu sampai abis next year then baru boleh decide.....

n then this mesir fren explain dalam erti kata bertunang ni kite seharusnye faham 2 keadaan.....

1/ bertunang adat

- ni bertunang yg kita semua faham la.... mean, pihak lelaki datang ke rumah pihak perempuan membawa hajat besar mewakili sang teruna untuk melamar memperisterikan sang bunga yg mekar di taman larangan... setelah persetujuan dicapai, maka ibu sang teruna akan menyarungkan cincin ke jari manis si dara.... 3 of my sisters married already n i know this process pretty well.... it's quite funny bile kedua pihak saling berkias2, kdg2 guna sepatah dua rangkap pantun sbg penyeri majlis....masa ni sang teruna x naik ke rumah perempuan pun, just wait in the car (normally),.. hantaran dalam 7-9-13 dulang, tak semestinya.... n the girl's parents will decide how much the hantaran gonna be.... but my parents never asked for certain amount... kami menerima seadanya dari pihak lelaki....my eldest sister, along (she's a teacher, married at age 24y.o, year 1990) the hantaran just RM 1000... then for my second sister, kaka (teacher, married 24y.o, 1994) RM 3000.... afta that Kak In (an insurance agent, married 24y.o, 2005) for RM 6789.10.... n what about me??? i'll turn 24 next year but yet just to start working...., so, most likely not gonna be next year k.... but who knows???

2/ bertunang syar'i.....

-konsep syar'i ni tak ramai yg tau, n this is my first time dengar ttg bertunang syar'i.... maksudnya bilamana saja ade lelaki yg melahirkan hasratnya untuk menikahi kita dan kita dengan rela hati bersetuju, walaupun masih belum mendapat persetujuan dari ibu bapa, maka ini sudah dikira bertunang syar'i.... sebagai contoh seorang hamba Allah ni, a fren of mine... she already had a steady boyfren long time ago, they wanted to get engaged but the parents said maybe they shud wait for another year after they stabilize their own life... so what happen was the boyfren gave a ring (not olok2 ok, i mean really cincin emas) to her... n she wears it... so dalam kes diorang ni, maknanya dah bertunang Syar'i la.... kalau tak kasi pe2 pon, but mmg kedua pihak dah pasang niat untuk menikah kemudian hari serta telah berbincang ttg masa depan mereka, maka ini juga dinamakn mereka telah bertunang syar'i....

n this fren told that in mesir, whenever sum1 ask whether u'r engaged or not, u shud tell them YES, kami bertunang syar'i.... or YES, bertunang adat... macam sweet tak????

... during my stay in kelantan ... wit sue n her x-skulmet,aina